From Conflict to Connection
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
As I realized at a very young age I could sense that some people held way back and some people went way too far when there was discord or disagreement.
I knew in my core it was about a balance of energy. We are made of energy and the ability to manage our energy is the key
E-Motions ~ Energy in Motion
Unprocessed emotions get stored in the body/mind. We can't simply ignore an emotion. They can begin to build in our system and they beg for acknowledgement and movement. If ignored the energy of the emotions express somehow through body/mind. If there is a grounding element than they can move through safely and effectively. If there is not a grounding element, the expression may have ill-effects.
Yoga and other mind/body tools offer great ways to ground during these times of rumbling energy.
Emotions are energy and energy cannot be created nor destroyed (The First Law of Thermodynamics (Conservation) states that energy is always conserved, it cannot be created or destroyed). In essence, energy can be converted from one form into another. Understanding this truth, we can direct and manage these emotional energies via ancient and modern techniques.
Would you like to recover from challenging conversations more quickly?
Do you want to save your energy for enjoyable conversations?
Do you want to feel more ready to play and be in the moment?
If you answered yes to the above questions then it will be worth your time and practice to integrate these ideas and techniques.
Let's begin with our Root Chakra which is subtle energy located at the base of the spine and is all about grounding AND the emotion anger.
Anger is one of the most potentially harmful and one of the most powerful emotions that signal something needs to be clarified and/or deep call for change is rumbling from one's core. Time to LISTEN.
"What we think of as emotion is the experience of energy moving through the body. This is generally felt as sensations of contraction such as tension or expansion such as calm. The Latin derivative for the word emotion, ‘emotere’, literally means energy in motion.
Researcher Barbara Frederickson furthered this understanding by describing the upward and downward spiral effect of emotion. An upward spiral correlates with expansion and feelings such as joy and happiness. A downward spiral correlates with contraction and feelings such as resentment and fear.
In itself, emotional energy is neutral. It is the feeling sensation and physiological reaction that makes a specific emotion positive or negative. Feeling is what you label as anger, sadness, joy or fear. It is then your interpretations or thoughts about emotional energy that give it meaning. Emotion serves as the carrier waves for the entire spectrum of feelings. Understanding that emotions are energy implies that they are fluid, moving resources meant to be felt and released vs. suppressed and ignored. The latter is the true culprit of low emotional intelligence and stress burnout". (authenticityassociates.com)
Ultimately, we are all looking for balance, whether we acknowledge it or not. We need union between our body, mind and spirit. We want deeper connection with an intimate partner. We want to be heard and seen (connection) with our friends. What we don't realize is that when strong, uncomfortable emotions arise, it's opportunity. These strong emotions are messengers to tell us that something is not balanced in our energy system and in our relationships. Something needs to shift.
more to come on this topic :)